What is online counselling?

In a world that is technologically driven, conducting business in cyberspace will become a way of life. The provision of mental health services via Internet communication is one such innovation that brings client and counsellor together in a dynamic therapeutic relationship.

Online counselling provides a convenient way for both client and therapist to engage with each other from home or office at a time that is expedient to them. There is no hassle of trying to beat the traffic in order to meet your counselling session nor the pain of paying a no show fee when you are not able to meet your appointment.

For persons who feel intimidated or are shy to engage in a face-to-face encounter, online counselling is an ideal occasion for this individual to express his/her thoughts and feelings in a non-threatening manner.

Online counselling therefore offers a private and confidential opportunity for the client to discuss his/her issues at his/her own pace, whenever and wherever.

 

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How Do I Rebound From A Failed Relationship?

"I feel quite hurt as I don't deserve to be treated like this?"

"I will show him that I can live without him"

The above statements maybe the expressions of a young lady who was "dumped" by her spouse. In her bid to get back at him she rushes out and initiate a relationship with the guy next door or the co- worker who has always expressed interest in her.

A failed relationship can be traumatic experience for one or both partners and individuals do go through the five stages of grief i.e. shock, denial, anger, sadness and acceptance

SHOCK: I am surprised by the turn of events. I was not expecting

this

DENIAL: I don't believe that he/she has walked out on me

ANGER: How dare you treat me this way?

SADNESS: I can't live, if living is without you (song)

ACCEPTANCE: I am ready to move on with my life

It is at the third and fourth stages that the estranged partner seeks to rebuild the shattered self-esteem and self worth. Rationale thinking is put on hold while the emotional repair work is proceeding.

Rebound relationships by nature are transient, as the affected individual is not necessarily looking for a committed relationship. There is temporary relief and as soon as the person accepts the reality of the loss he/she will loose interest and may want to be left alone, much to the amazement of the new partner.

How to avoid a rebound relationship

  • Give yourself time to reflect on the root cause of the break-up
  • Do a honest self evaluation. Ask your self. "Is there something I have done or never did that prompted this action?"
  • Avoid sharing your hurt with someone who may have vested interest, he or she may take advantage of your fragile emotional state
  • Use the opportunity to explore new hobbies and creative activities
  • Don't be angry be happy the break-up may just be a blessing in disguise
  • Use the opportunity to re-establish the tenets of your next relationship
  • Give yourself at least a year to fully exhaust the grieving process

 

REMEMBER

LIFE IS 10% OF WHAT HAPPENS TO YOU, AND 90% OF HOW YOU RESPOND TO IT

STARTING ALL OVER AGAIN IS GOING TO BE ROUGH BUT YOU CAN MAKE IT

 

Crisscounsellor